Thursday, May 28, 2009

I'll show you mine if you show me yours

As I creep closer to age 30, I become increasingly prudish about things like sex on t.v. and teenagers with thongs peeking out of their jeans. It could be less about age and more about becoming a mother. Either way, let's just say I've grown up a bit since college.

This is the way it should be. At some point grown women are supposed to stop dressing like Britney Spears and men are supposed to stop shopping at Abercrombie. Meanwhile, adults earn a prerogative to talk about the next generation of oversexed slackers.

Leave it to Miami University to throw the universe off balance. The National Summit on Youth Culture, Popular Culture and Sexuality Education begins Friday at Miami with the purpose of, among other lofty pursuits, “affirming the okayness of the sexuality of all young people, as well as different sexual identities and orientations." Basically, this is a bunch of brainy grown-ups contriving ways to undermine any chance a wholesome-type might make it through high school as a virgin.

The scholars of human sexuality want us to "rethink" the way public school children learn about sex. I'm no scholar of human sexuality, but it seems to me the emphasis should be getting our public schoolchildren to think less about sex and more about school. While abstinence-only education is impracticable in light of the media's influence, school teachers and other adult mentors should be telling kids to get their head out of the sack and back in the books.

While this weirdo-fest happens to be in my backyard, it's not isolated. Bill O'Reilly's show Thursday included this segment about a pinhead Canadian professor who equated "sexting" to spin the bottle. Peter Cumming, of York University, also wrote
"In Bush's America, is there no middle ground between child pornography, sexual assault, abuse, and exploitation on the one hand and children's 'abstinence' on the other? When, in Western culture, did nudity become pornography, did children's sexuality become perverse, and when and how and why have we forgotten children's participatory rights as sexual beings?"

Children are sexual beings?


  1. OK, so that guy is a total creepster, but there's a hint of a valid point hiding under all the skeeviness. Kids are going to, ummm, express their feelings one way or another. It's only gotten a little more provocative these days because technology makes it easy to do so.

    I remember (and I'm sure your husband will admit to it too if you ask) when catching a peek meant watching scrambled Cinemax after your parents went to bed.

    The point is, it's incumbent on parents to understand that this stuff goes on, deal with it openly and empower our children to make responsible decisions.

  2. Unfortunately in western society there is little expectation for boys and girls to become real men and women until they are about 30 or sometimes older.

    If you look at nearly all culture outside of our western culture you find 13-18 year olds living on their own, being married, providing for a family and functioning within the community as adults.

    Now you take young people with raging hormones and no responsibility and what do you get? Sex crazed kids damaging themselves and each other, trying to partake of the pleasures of adulthood without assuming any of the responsibilities.

    Do I have an answer as to how to fix it? Nope... wish I did. I do know our youth are capable of so much more, but we delay mental maturity by sending them to 6 years of college where they do not grow up, and have little expectation for them after that.